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If You Want A Strong Relationship, Set This Boundary First | Lewis & Martha Higareda Howes

If You Want A Strong Relationship, Set This Boundary First | Lewis & Martha Higareda Howes

Update: 2025-07-21
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Lewis and Martha open up about the boundary that saved their relationship before it even began. After years of exhausting themselves trying to keep the peace by constantly changing who they were, they learned that the strongest relationships aren't built on avoiding conflict—they're built on being crystal clear about what you will and won't accept from day one. Lewis shares how he almost scared Martha away by laying out his non-negotiables immediately, including his firm rule about never tolerating screaming, while Martha reveals how they both had to unlearn their people-pleasing patterns that were slowly draining their energy.

What makes this conversation so powerful is how they moved beyond just setting boundaries with each other to creating protective barriers with friends, family, and colleagues that actually strengthened their relationship. You'll discover why waiting years to set boundaries makes everything harder, how to communicate limits without shame or anger, and the specific framework they used in therapy to turn potential deal-breakers into relationship strengtheners. This isn't about being selfish—it's about creating the safety that allows real love to flourish.

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If You Want A Strong Relationship, Set This Boundary First | Lewis & Martha Higareda Howes

If You Want A Strong Relationship, Set This Boundary First | Lewis & Martha Higareda Howes

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